4 Things I learnt about myself at university

 

1.I really enjoy my own company

I always knew I had the tendency to be an introvert at times, but at uni I realised I’m much more introverted than I realised! At times I found myself preferring to do a number of things on my own, such as eating dinner or  doing my grocery shop and sometimes I would find myself looking forward to solo movie night and take away for one! Now don’t get me wrong – I love a good social, hanging out with friends, doing things with others and can be a complete and utter chatterbox at times…but there’s just something I’ve found to be so peaceful and tranquil in the moments when I’m just by myself, living life, feeling contented and just doing me.

2.Friends = quality/quantity

Season, reason or lifetime could not be more true when you go to uni. I went in thinking I was going make tons of friends and be part of some massive squad…and well…I definitely met tons of people, and yeah I did make  “lots of friends”….but as the years went by those that I considered to be true proper and genuine friends, has dwindled down (and continues to do so). It’s somewhat upsetting, but it is also part of life and often liberaing and when it comes to friendships quality will always win over quantity for me.

 

 

3.There will always be people who don’t like you for no particular reason and that’s OK!

Initially this was something that bothered me quite a bit. Like I genuinely didn’t understand why some people couldn’t just be nice…is it that hard to exchange pleasantries…? after all basic good manners are absolutely free! But I gradually began to realise that I wasn’t the problem and it wasn’t my job to try and make people like me, and in fact not everybody has to like me (their loss cos I’m actually jokes to be around-lol!). The best anyone can do in this life is to just be themselves and replace the need for external validation with self validation.

 

 

4. Positivity is a choice

You have to choose to be positive about whatever situation you find yourself in. I’ve definitely spent a lot of time being a pessimist, especially when it came to coursework and exams at uni and all it really does is exacerbate the situation and make it seem worse than it is and trigger low mood! I’ve started to consciously try and reverse this mindset  and improve the quality of my thoughts by practicing more mindfulness, gratitude and trying to see more of the good and positive in everything.

 

 

What did you learn or have so far learnt about yourself during your time at uni?

 

Love

 

CJ x

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24 responses to “4 Things I learnt about myself at university”

  1. Omg I’ve never read a post that so accurately described everything I have learnt since starting uni. Great post – have followed to see your future ones!

    Jas xx

  2. Totally agree that friends are better in quality rather than in quantity. I love my own time too sometimes is great to reflect

  3. ellieslondon says:

    I love this 💕 beung comfortable in your own company is so important. I don’t know what I would have done at uni if I hadn’t have been okay with this, but being an only child really made me used to it my whole life! X

  4. Gary says:

    Love 3 and 4 and after being at uni myself I definitely agree with them, love reading posts about uni! Cool stuff!

  5. glowsteady says:

    I agree with every word of this! I lived on a really small campus with not a lot going on so I really learnt the value over quality friendships x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

  6. Fatimah says:

    I will be sure to remember these when I start my first year this September! Thank you for the wise words x

    FATIMAH • ROSEYGOLDBOX
    http://www.roseygoldbox.blogspot.co.uk

  7. I’m off to uni next month and it’s really interesting to read about other peoples experience. I feel like I will be more aware of things through taking on board what others before me have learnt

    Fran | http://www.franciscarockey.co.uk

  8. Yes yes yes, all very true points!

  9. Oh yes girl, this was such a great post! I second every single point you made, it literally sums up all I’ve learnt at uni too.
    Especially that positivity is a choice. So true.

    Great work!

    The Love Addict x

  10. I learned to take care of myself better than what I was doing. I majored in Dance which meant I spent alot of time rehearsing, performing, and performing and would always put myself last! Now that I have graduated I have learned that there is a life outside of the studio and everything has been great!

  11. Katie-Beth says:

    I cannot agree with quality/quantity for friends SO much. It’s a lesson I wish I’d learned much, much earlier in my life.

  12. Misty Lynch says:

    Love #1 – I used to travel for work and have to eat and do things alone. I never minded it and had fun exploring new places. It’s a good skill to have!

  13. Batmom85 says:

    Great post! And so true. I’m always telling people the same thing positivity is a choice. This post isn’t such a necessary post of things we just need to remember. Love this! Light and love to you!

  14. jamnesreen says:

    I kind of have the same learning as you! I realized how introverted I really am when I was in uni.

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